Posts tagged #Assertive Skills

Assertive Skills in 2017 using Aristotle's wisdom!

It's 8th January 2017 and I'm back blogging !!

This is the 25th year of my assertive skills Maddison Training business.

I've taught / coached / facilitated the learning / trained thousands of people in assertive skills, 'The ability to speak up balanced by empathy under an umbrella of respect'.

And I encourage all my students to teach these learned skills to others. Teaching embeds your learnings as well as cascading the skills, creating a 'ripples in a pond' effect.

In practicing, living and sharing the skills . . .  (this will I hope ) . . . lead to a more peaceful world.

When you use and apply the tools and techniques of assertive communication skills you become more influential and persuasive.

Even in this 2017 digital age, we can call on the wisdom of Aristotle (4th century BC). He identified 3 fundamental elements of persuasion: Ethos, Pathos and Logos. These same 3 principles apply to speaking and writing in the 2017 digital age.

Ethos is your ( the speaker's) personal character / credibility.  Pathos appeals to the emotions of your audience and Logos is the logic behind your point of view / proof / evidence / facts to back up your proposal / suggestion.

Call to Action:

Think about who you want to persuade to do something for you today / this week. Use Ethos, Pathos and Logos to help you craft your assertive message. 

For those of you who are familiar with Yvonne's LAFFe to Success Model use this to guide you to move modes in preparing and delivering your message. Spend sometime in Logic mode to plan your best approach to suit their needs. Gather the evidence. Think WIIFT (What's In It for Them). Get creative in Fun mode. Tap into Feeling mode to appeal to their emotions. What's your credibility? Why are you saying / writing this - your ethos. Then take Action and ask / present / converse . . . 

P.S. Next post we will explore my LAFFe to Success Model.

Love to hear how you go.

Best wishes


How to improve your interpersonal skills

“I was wondering if you had any specific tips to help me improve my interpersonal skills with other team members. I tend to be fairly quiet at work, Come in, say Hi, complete my days work, say good-bye & go home again!”

My favourite interpersonal tip is smiling (more).

Remember even if you don't feel like smiling, when you look up and smile you can't feel depressed.

This is because endorphins are produced after 2 seconds and looking up takes you into visual processing channels. 

Looking down takes you into the emotions and feelings.

Another tip is to have your lunch in the lunchroom.

Have a magazine open and when someone comes in, look up and smile.

They may then say something to you.

And if you feel like it, say something to them about something in the news / give them a compliment / or mention something your reading.

Try these and let me know how you go.



Posted on January 14, 2013 .

Explore, Dream, Discover

Enjoy Mark Twain's words and wisdom.

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things
that you didn't do than by the ones you did.
So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover."
Mark Twain

So what will you dare to do today?
With love, light and laughter,

Posted on January 14, 2013 .

Live your name

What’s important to you? What do you stand for? What do you believe about yourself?

Take your name and make an acronym to live by.


  Y Yes to life!

  V Value what’s important

  O Optimistic. Expect the best

  N NO to what I don’t want.

  N Never done. Always learning!

  E Enthusiastic



Posted on January 14, 2013 .


"Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning to dance in the rain!"
-Vivian Greene

This quote reminds me of growing up in the North of England.
We got lots of storms and rain  . . . which produces the luxurious green countryside.

When we learn to look for and appreciate the best in every moment and everything . . .
we will be able to dance in the rain!
With love, light and laughter,

Posted on January 14, 2013 .